tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post114167304396688491..comments2024-03-07T02:00:01.286+05:30Comments on I, Me and Media!: My story---Blank Noise ProjectShobhahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08930302398862035268noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1148671967731150822006-05-27T01:02:00.000+05:302006-05-27T01:02:00.000+05:30Hi,I do empathise with you after reading your blog...Hi,<BR/><BR/>I do empathise with you after reading your blog. However, I am aghast at the language that you use.. I know your frustration, but letting it out in such steamy language is not in the right spirits.. coming as it is from a journalist.<BR/><BR/>--Cheers,<BR/><BR/>CheriAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1145880322825518072006-04-24T17:35:00.000+05:302006-04-24T17:35:00.000+05:30hi shobha, this is Rahima, who you met at the even...hi shobha, <BR/>this is Rahima, who you met at the event on Saturday,<BR/>just read this and was deeply moved.<BR/>thanks for sharing it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142581831894877652006-03-17T13:20:00.000+05:302006-03-17T13:20:00.000+05:30Perspective: Well, I have just written about the *...Perspective: Well, I have just written about the *first* experience that I have faced, an experience which scarred me as a child. Also, I think, it takes one single experience for a child to get traumatised. It's not about numbers...I feel :)Shobhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08930302398862035268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142565665722687372006-03-17T08:51:00.000+05:302006-03-17T08:51:00.000+05:30shobha... you've had one such experience and it ha...shobha... you've had one such experience and it has moved you so much? <BR/>since i was 11 i was molested and sexually abused. By strangers groping at me, showing off their penis,my own friends groping at me,talkign to me dirty, uncles, brothers all using me wanting to have sex with me... and yes i didnt know what was happening for a long time, only i knew it didnt feel alright. <BR/>I dont believe fear is the way to freedom from all this. <BR/><BR/>After years when a close friend decided to take advantage of the fact that he and me were alone in a lonely place in his car, i knew i had to learn to say no. I had to learn to simply be firm. And i did. <BR/>But i still go out late in the night, i still return home very late, i still hang out with friends and i still am learning to say no.<BR/><BR/>The first thing i had to learn actually was to love my body... and yes... its been a learning quite long. <BR/><BR/>But no single individual is to blame, you cant blame the entire race of the man either. Its inculcated so deep in our culture that this entire attitude of disrespect towards women has to be uprooted from its roots. that's the only way it'll disappear.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11450250532734000532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142536678512162852006-03-17T00:47:00.000+05:302006-03-17T00:47:00.000+05:30Amit: All da best for exams...Yup, we need to lear...Amit: All da best for exams...Yup, we need to learn how to defend ourselves.<BR/><BR/>Garima: Welcome...<BR/><BR/>Jitu: I am glad you remembered your daughter whilst reading the post...I really am...<BR/><BR/>Gladtomeeting: Hey...thanks..<BR/><BR/>Nikhilesh: LOLOLOL....:p of course u can link me...ehhhee<BR/><BR/>Visithra: true ya....seriously...Shobhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08930302398862035268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142536327969017582006-03-17T00:42:00.000+05:302006-03-17T00:42:00.000+05:30Atlas: Aisa hi hota hain dude...aisa hi hota hain....Atlas: Aisa hi hota hain dude...aisa hi hota hain...<BR/><BR/>Anon: Bold reactions by woman are the need of the day...<BR/><BR/>reiya: Haven't tried pepper spray....hrd a lot abt it tho..<BR/><BR/>Andy: yup, every pervert is a weakling....u said it...<BR/><BR/>Shitrint: Oh goodnes...molested at the age of 5? Shit man...hugs....<BR/><BR/>Vilakudy: Yup, point taken anna :D ;}<BR/><BR/>Vidya: Yup, it has...<BR/><BR/>Anon: I think it has been reported earlier. Midday did an expose...Shobhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08930302398862035268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142535842051666302006-03-17T00:34:00.000+05:302006-03-17T00:34:00.000+05:30Anon: Oh well....well.er... ok...heheTruman: As I ...Anon: Oh well....well.er... ok...hehe<BR/><BR/>Truman: As I said, I wrote for myself. However if it does make a difference, I am glad...<BR/><BR/>Poorva: Thanks girl..<BR/><BR/>Pravin: Poda<BR/><BR/>Santosh: ha...we go through it everyday...<BR/><BR/>Jasmeen: Hey...speak out aloud we will...Shobhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08930302398862035268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142493999491086012006-03-16T12:56:00.000+05:302006-03-16T12:56:00.000+05:30Sad isnt it we're told to come back early for what...Sad isnt it we're told to come back early for what someone did to us that was not our fault? - i pray that we are parents we dont do the sameVisithrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14525994382867482657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142483394809528432006-03-16T09:59:00.000+05:302006-03-16T09:59:00.000+05:30I meant "LiNked" you ...typ error ..seriously..I meant "LiNked" you ...typ error ..seriously..Nikhileshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13924578117019678710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142483329925986662006-03-16T09:58:00.000+05:302006-03-16T09:58:00.000+05:30I hope its ok if i liked you?All the best.Nikhiles...I hope its ok if i liked you?<BR/>All the best.<BR/>NikhileshNikhileshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13924578117019678710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142365279484433112006-03-15T01:11:00.000+05:302006-03-15T01:11:00.000+05:30Its sooo nice of you to have boldy brought this to...Its sooo nice of you to have boldy brought this topic...<BR/><BR/>Wish many gets inspired by your post n act boldy to stop such non-sense happening.....<BR/><BR/>Wish you good luck dear :-))Gladtomeetinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12258353335646947361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142355858830549292006-03-14T22:34:00.000+05:302006-03-14T22:34:00.000+05:30May the Lord give you all (women folk) strength fo...May the Lord give you all (women folk) strength for we as human beings to see a better tommorow.<BR/><BR/>This article has reminded me that I am also a father of girl child.<BR/><BR/>jeeetwoo@yahoo.co.inAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142242672763750022006-03-13T15:07:00.000+05:302006-03-13T15:07:00.000+05:30how it reverberates my actual thots in exact and b...how it reverberates my actual thots in exact and better words.<BR/><BR/>"the kya prob hai"dialouge really works!! hmm..somehow am glad i had my sis beside me when a similar incident occured, the first time ever, and i was as stunned speechless as you. however,with my sis it was easier to tackle.and with time, i could ask my frends not to react in an expression of "selfshame"when anything similar happens.<BR/><BR/><BR/>expecting more n more such posts frm you, cuz there are such personal issues tht ppl can relate so much to and yes discuss openly about becuz of the actual relevance tht these have on humsabka day to day life.<BR/>u go gurl!<BR/><BR/>-shonu(titzbitz)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142236712189447372006-03-13T13:28:00.000+05:302006-03-13T13:28:00.000+05:30hello,first time on your blog.. its really touchy....hello,<BR/>first time on your blog.. its really touchy.<BR/>but wat all i can say is dont loose your strength cz u'll need it more much much more further in your life.Garimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08512157818887436383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142232163248736912006-03-13T12:12:00.000+05:302006-03-13T12:12:00.000+05:30I cant believe this .......... I have an exam tomr...I cant believe this .......... I have an exam tomrw and i actually read thru all of it!! BTW ... loooong post. Getting to the point ..... Lecherous behaviour towards anyone obviously leads to mental disturbance .... especially in children. ultimately the ones who let such behaviour pass and just shrug at it, only lead the "criminals" to assume its alrite to indulge. people esp women need to learn not only how to defend themselves but to incapacitate the perpetrator if neccessary.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142197676487593972006-03-13T02:37:00.000+05:302006-03-13T02:37:00.000+05:30If it makes you feel any better, i came across som...If it makes you feel any better, i came across some info that some wardboys and staff in hospital morgues (very famous and some infamous ones in Mumbai)have sex with dead bodies...including men. The management knows this and are naturally hush hush about it. Do some digging, since youre a journo (like me) and you will know the truth. So in a nutshull, no matter how rich, what sex, what age you are, you will be molested in death!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1142024002643700222006-03-11T02:23:00.000+05:302006-03-11T02:23:00.000+05:30All I can say is that I agree with you. I hope sha...All I can say is that I agree with you. I hope sharing it with everyone made you feel better!!Vidyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15279000246901745713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1141904464206387352006-03-09T17:11:00.000+05:302006-03-09T17:11:00.000+05:30I agree with your views completley. And I can unde...I agree with your views completley. And I can understand the agony you must have gone through. You can abuse them; but when you write a blog -it is no longer personal- you should "calm-down'' the language. That is very important.vilakudyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16789321018098398025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1141827267018244492006-03-08T19:44:00.000+05:302006-03-08T19:44:00.000+05:30well, shobha,i kno its really difficult to get ove...well, shobha,<BR/>i kno its really difficult to get over incidents like this. i hav had a very tough time coming to terms with wen i was molested at the age of 5...i used to keep harping on it, feel guilt, feel shame, and the very sight of any man told me to be aware; and all my mind went through was feelings of getting him castrated!! i kno it sounds very extreme and you may not even publish my comment, but this is the truth especially wen i could tell no one, not even my parents! this was the most extreme incident and i hav been 'touched' in public places after that in presence of my mother...(of course the coward left me stunned & got away soon enough for me to react and hit back!)<BR/>hell! no one protects you. u hav to protect yourself and wat you did-hurl abuses at those hooligans was the right thing...<BR/>and this happens everyday- in the bus, in the train, walking amongst the crowds on the streets...just about everywhere!<BR/>people just need to stand up and help the ones who go thru such kind of a trauma and not attach a feeling shame for no fault of theirs!Kay Veehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04627450935231070683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1141825756667353202006-03-08T19:19:00.000+05:302006-03-08T19:19:00.000+05:30hmm i think that the right way to go about it. to ...hmm i think that the right way to go about it. to be agressive as you did with those assholes in the car. every pervert is weakling.. and if a girl decides to NOT give in to such people and put up even a little fight. they will back off ( or so ive heard).. it makes sense too.. well written, although it does sound typically krantikari :P >:D< buhahah... gheun taak ammales ;)wormtonguehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01526773428613966023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1141823179068382372006-03-08T18:36:00.000+05:302006-03-08T18:36:00.000+05:30this issue is very serious issue n ppl shud unders...this issue is very serious issue n ppl shud understand that girls are the victims here and why shud we be ashamed? its the perpetrators who shud be bashed up. and ya its a good idea to keep some pepper spray or sumthing. it happens to most girls and instead of being told to keep quiet girls shud be encouraged to fight back. No one deserves such treatment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1141821840013400662006-03-08T18:14:00.000+05:302006-03-08T18:14:00.000+05:30Well thats very true that those female who have g...Well thats very true that those female who have gone through such experiences recount the same very rarely because of fear , embarrassment or discouraging reactions from peer group or the parents.This is something that needs to be curbed.A bold act by some females can change the situation...a society that is not ruled by males...a healthy and peaceful enviroment for the fair sex.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1141810130079788962006-03-08T14:58:00.000+05:302006-03-08T14:58:00.000+05:30Post has left me speechless and thinking "Aisa bhi...Post has left me speechless and thinking "Aisa bhi hota hai?" ...Never expected..well written...:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1141791362778488192006-03-08T09:46:00.000+05:302006-03-08T09:46:00.000+05:30wish you strengthspeaK OUT LOUD!wish you strength<BR/><BR/>speaK OUT LOUD!Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13512982989981340707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494111.post-1141766848668165152006-03-08T02:57:00.000+05:302006-03-08T02:57:00.000+05:30It takes lots of guts to write such things...bravo...It takes lots of guts to write such things...bravo!!! I'll share a personal experience....recently I had been to a very famous ALL-GIRLS college in Chennai for doing a survey for my project. As I walked to the admin. block, I was getting a little jittery as I was the only guy practically in middle of over 1000 girls. My confidence went for a toss. A few girls giving a look as if an alien had landed in their campus...now I can empathise with all the girls and what harrowing experience they go through every day with all those sadak-chhap sexually frustrated romeos sniffing around.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com